Episode 361: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 3 of 4) – The Problem with Seriousness and Reactivity (Rebroadcast)
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The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
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