Gray Divorce & Gray Affairs: Why Happy Marriages End After 50 - 1332
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Gray divorce has exploded, with the divorce rate for people 50 and older more than doubling since 1990 and this age group now making up 40% of all divorces, up from just 8% in 1990, per Bowling Green State University research. Chalene Johnson breaks down why marriages that looked solid for decades are suddenly ending. She unpacks a 2024 study on late in life divorce, the empty nest reckoning that leaves couples with nothing left to talk about, and how perimenopause and menopause change mood, libido, and patience enough to end a marriage nobody saw coming. Then there's the gray affair. Chalene turns to relationship expert Esther Perel's research on why people in happy, decades-long marriages still stray, plus the surprising odds that a couple stays together after one is discovered. Topics discussed: gray divorce, gray affair, Bowling Green State University, Esther Perel, empty nest, menopause, perimenopause, midlife crisis, betrayal trauma.
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00:00:00 — Intro tease: gray divorce and gray affair among couples married for decades 00:02:28 — Today's topic: gray divorce and gray affair defined, through Chalene's own 32-year marriage 00:04:17 — WTF stat: overall U.S. divorce rate falling since 1990, but not for 50+ 00:04:50 — Bowling Green State University: divorce rate for 50+ doubled, 65+ tripled, now 40% of all divorces 00:05:51 — Most gray divorces are first marriages ending, not repeat marriages 00:06:17 — Why gray divorce unsettles couples who "made it" 00:07:42 — A 2024 study: two categories of gray divorce, from couples who always knew to those blindsided after a "great" marriage 00:10:17 — Stat: women initiate roughly 70% of divorces 00:11:13 — The empty nest reckoning: losing the shared project of raising kids 00:14:19 — Social media creators' gray divorce stories and content bias 00:15:07 — The Divorce Club: a TikTok creator blames his wife's menopause 00:17:39 — Women's side: nervous system "fried" after decades of managing a spouse 00:19:19 — Clips: women on leaving toxic, unhealthy marriages 00:21:25 — Ad: Organifi collagen, code CHALENE 00:22:47 — The Golden Bachelor and redefining what "old" means 00:24:00 — Perimenopause and menopause: sleep, mood, libido, weight 00:24:25 — Chalene's before-and-after photo and body image during perimenopause 00:27:52 — Resentment quietly building, then blindsiding the other partner 00:30:56 — Hindsight signs of a partner who's already checked out 00:31:23 — Defining the gray affair 00:32:47 — Outside attention sparks feeling alive and desired again 00:33:48 — Esther Perel: affairs are about a new self, not a new spouse 00:35:03 — Ad: iRestore red light hair growth cap, code CHALENE 00:37:01
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