119. The Patterns Running Your Love Life (and Why You Keep Repeating Them) with Amy Chan
The Wellness ProcessShow Notes
In today's episode, Elizabeth sits down with Amy Chan, dating expert, founder of Breakup Boot Camp, and author of Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts. They get into why so many smart, successful women are struggling to find lasting love, and what is actually getting in the way.
Amy breaks down the patterns most people repeat without realizing it, from chasing emotionally unavailable partners to mistaking anxiety for attraction. She explains how our earliest relationships wire us to seek what feels familiar, even when it hurts us, and how that plays out in who we swipe on, who we fall for, and who we keep ending up with. They also get into the science of love chemicals, why the 18-month mark breaks so many couples apart, what it really takes to keep a relationship alive after the dopamine fades, and how to tell the difference between a green flag and someone who is simply very good at dating.
This conversation is not about finding the perfect partner. It is about understanding the patterns you are running on autopilot so you can finally stop repeating them.
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