Rerelease | How Coercive Control Harms Children & What Protective Parents Can Do
Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbuseShow Notes
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola about how coercive control and psychological maltreatment affect children, especially when abuse continues after separation. They discuss why traumatized children may become dysregulated, defensive, fearful, or aligned with the controlling parent, and how these responses can be mistaken for ordinary misbehavior.
Dr. Cocchiola explains how protective parents can rebuild safety by lending their children calm, recognizing triggers, preparing for difficult interactions, using less threatening language, and responding without escalating conflict. She also explores ego resiliency, authoritarian versus authoritative parenting, the neurosequential model, and why connection and emotional regulation must come before correction. This conversation offers practical guidance for parents trying to help their children heal while coercive control remains an ongoing presence in their lives.
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