Show Notes
What happens when kink becomes not just a practice but a path to freedom? In this episode I’m joined by Race Bannon — legendary BDSM educator, leatherman and author of Kink Is My Superpower to explore gay leather culture, power exchange, and the psychology of erotic freedom. We explore: Gay leather history and the evolution of BDSM culture. Dominance, submission and the psychology of switching. HIV, pup identities and changing queer erotic communities. Kink as identity, belonging and liberation. Can kink become a superpower? VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting! Research article: Faeries, Bears, and Leathermen: Men in Community Queering the Masculine. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here.
Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
More from The Erotic Realm
Can sexual energy be used in magick? And could BDSM, ritual and altered states of consciousness be connected in ways we don't yet fully understand? In this episode I'm joined by Sanhre to explore the fascinating intersection of sex magick, BDSM, occultism, chaos magick and erotic spirituality. We explore: What occultism, chaos magick and sex magick actually mean. The relationship between BDSM, erotic energy and spiritual practices. Aleister Crowley and the idea of sexuality as a sacred force. Subspace, topspace, deep rope states and altered consciousness. The neuroscience of BDSM and its possible parallels with ritual experiences. Sigil magick, intention, belief and the ethics of magical practice. Research article: Consensual BDSM Facilitates Role-Specific Altered States of Consciousness. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
What happens when the very communities built around consent, freedom and sexual exploration develop their own forms of toxicity, manipulation and abuse? In this episode I'm joined by Ayzad, a pioneering Italian BDSM educator, author and kink coach with more than thirty years of experience, to explore the dark side of BDSM, toxic kink culture, power dynamics and the psychology of consent. We explore: The dark side of BDSM and toxic kink culture. How to distinguish consensual BDSM from psychological abuse. Power dynamics, manipulation and the limits of consent. Why good intentions don't always prevent harmful behaviour. What has changed as BDSM has become more mainstream. The psychology behind unhealthy kink relationships and community dysfunction. Research article: Sexual Violence and Nonconsensual Experiences Among Alt-Sex Communities’ Members. This episode is proudly sponsored by Hedon House - A BDSM and kink dungeon/playspace, accommodation, bath house, private dance floor, resting place, and so much more. Book your stay at hedonhouse.com with code THEREALM for 15% off. Follow Hedon House on Instagram. Check out my full conversation with the creator of Hedon House- Gala Vanting on Episode 30: Building Sanctuaries for BDSM & Erotic Exploration. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Why does the human brain sometimes transform pain into sexual pleasure? And what can BDSM teach us about neuroscience, desire and consciousness? In this episode I'm joined by Hermes Solenzol, a pain neuroscientist, writer and lifelong kinkster, to explore the fascinating relationship between BDSM, pain, pleasure, sadism and the kinky brain. We explore: The neuroscience of BDSM and why pain can become erotic pleasure. How the brain processes pain, anticipation, arousal and desire. BDSM pain thresholds and how context can change pain perception. Subspace, altered states of consciousness and the neuroscience of kink. The psychology of consensual sadism and compassionate dominance. Becoming a BDSM switch and exploring both sides of power exchange. BDSM, spirituality, Buddhism and the subjective experience of pain. Free will, monogamy, polyamory and the psychology of human relationships. Sexuality and ageing: remaining erotic at 69 and beyond. Erotic fantasy, writing and discovering ourselves through imagination. Further reading: Beyond Pain: A Study on the Variance of Pain Thresholds Within BDSM Interactions in Dominants and Submissives. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Why does the human brain sometimes transform pain into sexual pleasure? And what can BDSM teach us about neuroscience, desire and consciousness? In this episode I'm joined by Hermes Solenzol, a pain neuroscientist, writer and lifelong kinkster, to explore the fascinating relationship between BDSM, pain, pleasure, sadism and the kinky brain. We explore: The neuroscience of BDSM and why pain can become erotic pleasure. How the brain processes pain, anticipation, arousal and desire. BDSM pain thresholds and how context can change pain perception. Subspace, altered states of consciousness and the neuroscience of kink. The psychology of consensual sadism and compassionate dominance. Becoming a BDSM switch and exploring both sides of power exchange. BDSM, spirituality, Buddhism and the subjective experience of pain. Free will, monogamy, polyamory and the psychology of human relationships. Sexuality and ageing: remaining erotic at 69 and beyond. Erotic fantasy, writing and discovering ourselves through imagination. Further reading: Beyond Pain: A Study on the Variance of Pain Thresholds Within BDSM Interactions in Dominants and Submissives. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
What happens when you rediscover sexual desire in your seventies, after decades without intimacy? In this episode I chat with Andrea Feinberg, also known as Brookiana, who returns to explore sex after 70, dating in later life, sexual desire, ageing, and the extraordinary experience of erotic reawakening. When Andrea first joined me in Episode 102, she shared her journey of returning to dating, intimacy and sexual exploration in her seventies. Now she's back with her newly published book, Sex, Sensuality and the Senior Woman, to explore what that journey taught her about desire, desirability, confidence and herself. We explore: Sex after 70 and rediscovering sexual desire in later life. Why women are taught that their desirability has an expiry date. Returning to dating after decades without intimacy. The psychology of being desired and feeling desirable. Sexual confidence, sensuality and erotic identity as we age. Writing Sex, Sensuality and the Senior Woman and the vulnerability of sharing intimate experiences. Research Article: "The Shop Is Not Closed": Sex and Sexuality Among Older Adult Daters Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.