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708: Mistaking Certainty for Maturity with Joshua Harris

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Show Notes

Thirty years ago, Joshua Harris became the cheerleader for purity culture with his book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." Since then, he's apologized for the book, exited from ministry and his marriage, and announced he's no longer a Christian. He talks to Skye about his journey from fundamentalism to deconstructionism, and back toward curiosity about Jesus. Also this week, how the Trump administration is making paganism great again, why secular progressives are rediscovering the benefits of religion, and how Christians in Springfield, Ohio, have organized to protect Haitian immigrants from deportation. Plus, cannibal jellyfish are taking over Venice, and Phil has seen the wrap light.

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2:15 - Theme Song

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8:52 - Cannibal Jellyfish Attack Venice!

14:18 - Springfield Christians Help Haitian Immigrants

24:04 - Donald Trump, the Pagan King

35:19 - Secular Progressives Miss Religion

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54:09 - Interview

58:35 - Teenage Fame

1:09:52 - What Wisdom Does Joshua Wish He Had?

1:14:50 - Value of Slowness

1:20:22 - Trump and Deconstruction

1:26:55 - End Credits

Links Mentioned in News Segment: Cannibal Jellyfish Attack Venice! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15511319/Venice-invaded-cannibalistic-jellyfish-vanishing-anus.html

Ohio Churches Help Haitians: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/02/02/us/springfield-ohio-haitians-deportation-threat.html

Donald Trump, Pagan King: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/02/11/opinion/donald-trump-pagan-king.html

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