Ep. 15 - Newborn Sleep Myth #6: Sleep Training Will Ruin Connection
Surviving Tiny Humans: 10 Minute Triage for Newborns & New ParentsShow Notes
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We’re on Lie #6 of the 7 Sleep Training Lies series — and this one hits differently.
The earlier lies were about fear of damage. This one is more personal: what if I lose the moments I actually love? The contact nap. The nurse-to-sleep snuggle. The one quiet part of the day where it’s just the two of you.
In this episode I’m breaking down why sleep teaching doesn’t take connection away — it takes obligation away. There’s a big difference between choosing a contact nap because you want it, and holding your baby because there’s simply no other option.
I also want to talk about something nobody really addresses: the difference between a baby who stops crying at night because they’ve learned to self-soothe, and a baby who stops crying because they’ve given up. Those are not the same thing — and knowing the difference matters.
And at the end, I’m sharing two real moments from my own life where I threw the sleep plan out the window — and exactly what I did to get back on track without starting from scratch.
In this episode: ∙ Why sleep teaching adds a skill without taking anything away ∙ Contact naps — when they’re a joy vs. when they’re a trap ∙ The shutdown response vs. genuine self-soothing ∙ Why your bedtime routine is actually your reset button ∙ The two things I did after travel and illness to get back on track fast
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