Show Notes
Loneliness leads to mind games. It shakes your faith and leaves you feeling worse than before. In this episode, Lily unpacks what isolation is and is not, explains why we need community, and shares ways to be the initiator in your friendships and relationships.
This is episode #4 of the SURF series — Stop, Understand, Relationships, Faith — a five-week journey where we explore how to find joy and purpose in life's ups and downs. How are you riding the wave? Share with the crew over on Instagram @8020pod!
Download the SURF Guidebook: https://lilyrakow.myflodesk.com/surf
Listen to the previous SURF episodes:
learn to ride the wave: an introduction to the SURF series
Stop chasing distractions: living with purpose in your 20s
Understanding big emotions amidst life’s challenges: how to navigate your feelings when it’s chaotic, overwhelming, and confusing
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