Grow Yourself Up

Ep 128: Am I Failing My Kids and Secure Attachment

Grow Yourself Up

Show Notes

Episode 128 ponders the question 'Am I failing my kids' and uses an attachment analogy to explain what that would actually look like. She uses details from her own life to explain how we all have periods of challenge, disconnection, stress and how we can reframe this. Instead of using black and white language to describe our experiences and saying we are bad/shit, Cath suggests how we might conceive of things instead.

Cath also speaks briefly about the TV show 'Adolescence' and the issues this programme has highlighted. And how secure attachment and cultivating warmth, connection and allowing vulnerability for all are a vital part of how we can protect our children from all sorts of negative outcomes. She speaks about patriarchy and modelling and how our own relationships as adults are what our children learn from.

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