Pivot with Jenny Blake

338: Is Midlife Messing with Your Enoughness? + Busting Not Enough Scams with Mandy Lehto

Pivot with Jenny Blake

Show Notes

“Legacy isn’t something you leave, it’s something you live.” These are just some of the wise words from this week’s guest, Mandy Lehto, who shares strategies for letting go of being a hard-o-holic, nexting, navigating mid-career pivots, and busting all manner of other “not enough” scams. More About Mandy: Mandy Lehto is a speaker, writer and coach with a Doctorate from Cambridge University and in her former career she was a director at a global investment bank. Mandy is the host of Enough, the podcast, a show for recovering perfectionists and overachievers. When Mandy isn't coaching leaders, she's parenting her two musical teenagers with her husband, or walking Herbie, her toy poodle, on Wimbledon Common.

🌟 3 Key Takeaways

“Legacy isn’t something you leave, it’s something you live.” What if you embraced more of who you are, quirks and all, rather than trying to please or achieve?

Not-enough scams are false beliefs, that once we play through them enough times, becomes automated. Our mind wants to automate as much as it can.

Nexting is our compulsion to continue being dazzled by the mirage shimmering on the horizon that the next thing for sure will fill the void inside us.

✅ Try This Next

Pick your inner critic that hogs the mic and name it, even something provocative (Mandy’s is Judgy Janet). And also name your inner champion, the wise voice that’s always rooting for you. Give them fun names so you don’t take this all too seriously :)

📚 Books Mentioned

From Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks

Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business

Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One

Life After College

🔗 Resources Mentioned

Mandy on the web, Instagram: @mandylehto, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest

People: Arthur Brooks

Articles: Jennifer Lopez article in Vogue

Video: Mark Hyman’s podcast with Robert Waldinger

🎧 Related Episodes

Enough, the podcast: 50: Is Middle-Age Messing with your Enoughness?, 36: Busting your not-enough scams, I’m burnt out but I keep pushing

Pivot: 319: Who’s Sitting in the Board Room of Your Brain? with Adrian Klaphaak, 329: Five Types of People-Pleasers from The Joy of Saying No with Natalie Lue, 282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding, 056: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber

Free Time: 180: 📉 Diminishing Returns and the True Costs of Shiny Shoulds, 166: Crashing into Quiet Time

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