155. Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? | How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally
Why Do I Do This? with Johnny LawrenceShow Notes
Why can one rejection stay with us for days, weeks, or even years?
In this episode, I share a personal experience of rejection and explore why it affects us so deeply. I unpack what's happening in the brain, why rejection often feels personal, and how the stories we tell ourselves can make the pain even worse.
I also explain rejection sensitivity, how to separate facts from assumptions, and share practical tools to help you respond to rejection with greater confidence, resilience, and self-awareness. Because rejection isn't proof that you're not enough. It's simply an event, not your identity.
Takeaways 👉Rejection is an event, not your identity. 👉Rejection often triggers a survival response. 👉The story you tell yourself shapes the pain you feel. 👉Separate facts from assumptions. 👉Feedback isn't always a reflection of your worth. 👉Growth requires the courage to risk rejection.
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