The Doula Darcy Podcast

Exactly What I Say to Get Doula Clients to Hire Me Without Feeling Sales-y

The Doula Darcy Podcast

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Exactly What I Say to Get Doula Clients to Hire Me Without Feeling Sales-y You don't need to become "better at sales" to book more doula clients. In fact, the harder you try to sell yourself during a doula interview, the more awkward it can feel for you and the potential client. In this episode of The Doula Darcy Podcast, I'm sharing 6 simple phrases I use during doula interviews to help potential clients feel comfortable, confident, and ready to hire me, without ever feeling pushy or salesy. These are phrases I've used again and again in my sixteen years of conducting doula interviews and they work because they reflect what great doulas already know how to do: listen, create safety, communicate clearly, and confidently guide someone through an unfamiliar experience. Inside this episode, we'll talk about: How to end an interview without awkwardly asking, "So…do you want to hire me?"

The simple question that helps clients decide whether you're the right fit

How to create urgency when your calendar is filling up without using sleazy sales tactics

Why explaining exactly "what happens next" makes clients more likely to move forward

How to communicate that you genuinely WANT to work with a potential client

Why confidently sending the contract can be more effective than waiting for permission

How to uncover the questions or concerns that might be keeping someone from booking

Why the energy you bring to the interview matters just as much as what you say

Remember: how you show up during the interview gives your potential client a preview of how you'll show up as their doula. 🎧 Listen now and choose one or two of these phrases to try during your next doula interview. PLUS: Join me at the Birthworker Retreat! The Birthworker Retreat is back January 25–27 in Clearwater Beach, Florida at the Wyndham Grand. This year's theme is Generating Revenue, with sessions designed to help doulas, lactation professionals, sleep consultants, midwives, and other birthworkers build stronger, more profitable businesses. And just as important? You'll have plenty of time for the conversations, connections, beach walks, lunches, and late-night hot tub chats that make this retreat feel a little like summer camp for birthworkers. Learn more and grab your ticket at www.thebirthworkerretreat.com.

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