THE MARTIN SHOW

88: Tommy Jackson | Falling in Love as a Man: Commitment, Marriage & Dating in the Modern World

THE MARTIN SHOW

Show Notes

What does it really mean to fall in love as a man in the modern world?

In this Valentines Day special, I sit down with former boxer TJ Comley.

We discuss why the gentlemen is a dying breed, if men should "play the field" before settling down and why men should be seeking calmness and peace - not chaos and extremes.

Fresh into marriage, TJ shares what meeting the love of his life has changed in him, what commitment truly means and if this love has made him softer or stronger.

This is an honest conversation about love, modern dating, balance and becoming a better man.

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