Job Rejection and Disappointment: How I Deal With It After Redundancy (Without Losing the Plot)
Now What? - Life after redundancyShow Notes
Disappointed by a job rejection, a “thanks but no thanks” email, or life generally pressing the nope button? Same. In this episode of Now What: Life After Redundancy, I talk through how I handle disappointment in real time from the job hunt trenches. Over the festive break I spotted a role that felt like a perfect fit, tailored my CV and cover letter like my future depended on it… and got rejected the next day. Which felt less like “careful consideration” and more like I’d been politely denied by an AI screening robot. This isn’t a definitive guide to emotions (I am not the Jedi Council), it’s a “here’s what helps me” framework you can try when rejection stings and you still need to keep moving. I share a practical set of steps to process disappointment, separate facts from the spirally story in your head, take the lesson without turning it into self punishment, and do the next small thing even when your motivation is buffering like 90s dial up. In this episode: How to process disappointment without pretending you’re fine
Coping with job rejection and application ghosting
A simple mindset shift: facts vs the story your brain invents
Turning rejection into useful data (not a personal verdict)
The “next tiny step” method to get back on the application horse
If you’ve been disappointed recently, leave a comment with what happened and what helped or just type a single word like blomonge and I’ll know you were here. If you’re asking yourself now what… you’re in the right place
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