
083: 4 Mindset Shifts to Feel Less Guilty about Unfinished Tasks from an Executive Function Coach
From Stuck to Started: Executive Function & ADHD Coaching to Take ActionShow Notes
"I didn’t get as much done as I wanted to." If you've said this to yourself more times than you can count, you're not alone. It's one of the most common things I hear from my executive function coaching clients. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why your brain fixates on unfinished tasks (and what "open loops" have to do with it) How all-or-nothing thinking convinces you that nothing you did today counts Why comparing yourself to your past self or to other people can quietly sabotage your executive functioning How to adjust your expectations to fit your actual capacity The mindset shift that ties it all together and helps you give yourself credit, even on the hard days
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