Show Notes
Season 6, Episode 770: A replay of this conversation is being published to get the video version onto podcast apps for a more genuine expereince for listeners and watchers. In this tantalizing episode, Ruan welcomes sex coach extraordinaire Lee Jagger, CEO and founder of Rock the Bedroom. Lee has transformed the lives of thousands of women by empowering them with her signature erotic massage techniques, helping them to forge deeper connections with their partners and ignite confidence in the bedroom. Preorder Ruan Willow's new dark romance novel Spring Break & Stranded at a Cabin with 7 Chosen Men, a Why Choose romance, a dark romance, new adult: get the book Episode summary: Lee and Ruan explore the misconceptions surrounding erotic massage, revealing that it's so much more than a mere hand job. It's a journey of slow, sensual exploration that can include the entire body, with over 69 techniques that a man simply can't perform on himself. Lee shares her personal story of transformation from being homeless to becoming a beacon of sensual empowerment for women everywhere.
The discussion delves into the importance of playtime (not just foreplay), the art of communication, and the power of treating your partner like royalty. Lee emphasizes that when it comes to touching, men crave the sensation of being desired, and she challenges women to touch their partners like they love it, transforming obligatory acts into moments of genuine pleasure.
Lee also shares valuable insights on how these techniques can enhance sexual experiences for men with erection challenges, offering alternatives to intercourse that still provide deep satisfaction. And for the singles out there, Lee discusses how these skills can boost confidence in the dating world, attracting partners who will cherish and respect them.
Don't miss this episode that's as informative as it is steamy, it could save your relationship. Lee Jagger's advice is life changing. Website: https://www.rockthebedroom.com Podcast: https://rockthebedroompodcast.buzzsprout.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/rockthebedroom/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rockthebedroom Episode topics The journey from homelessness to empowering women in the bedroom Understanding the true essence of erotic massage The power of confidence in the bedroom and its ripple effect on relationships Is that why you became a sex coach for women? Lee: When I started erotic massage, my boyfriend couldn't even get an erection Our sex ed in America is so focused on reproduction and ignores pleasure, intimacy, female anatomy, and enthusiastic consent The importance of intimacy and connection beyond intercourse Addressing the challenges of single women and the importance of self-worth in dating Communication in the bedroom Importance of touching your partner with genuine desire and love Prefer the term playtime over foreplay Women often assume that flaccid penis doesn't do anything One thing men really wish that women knew about touching a man's body When you have control in the bedroom, you have the best sex
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