Dr. Rachel Goldman, Ph.D. | When Life Happens: The Mindset Shift You Need to Manage Stress, Build Confidence and Break Free
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Clinical psychologist Dr. Rachel Goldman, PhD joins BariNation hosts April Williams and Jason Smith to discuss the psychological and behavioral tools every person needs to navigate life's hardest moments, especially those living with the chronic disease of obesity. Drawing from her new book When Life Happens, Dr. Goldman breaks down CBT into accessible, actionable tools for building emotional resilience, managing stress, challenging unhelpful thoughts, and developing a growth mindset. Essential listening for bariatric surgery patients, anyone managing chronic illness, and anyone stuck between knowing what to do and actually doing it. This episode is supported by AdventHealth Central Florida and the Metabolic Health Institute. If you've struggled with weight loss, you know it's a lifelong journey. At AdventHealth's Metabolic Health Institute, they address the root cause of weight gain with a whole-health approach, from lifestyle support and medication to bariatric surgery. Learn more at http://www.AdventHealthWeightLoss.com What You'll Learn: Build a Mental Health Toolbox — One tool is never enough. Dr. Goldman explains why you need at least three coping strategies and the critical difference between self-care tools (preventative) and stress management tools (acute), and why they're actually the same tools used with different intention. The CBT Core: Your thoughts don't just feel bad, they directly shape your behavior. Dr. Goldman walks through how identifying unhelpful thoughts, examining the evidence, and reframing can rewire the brain over time through neuroplasticity. The goal isn't to eliminate negative thoughts; it's to reduce how long you stay in them. Cognitive Distortions That Keep You Stuck — All-or-nothing thinking, jumping to conclusions, and "should" statements are three of the most common distortions in people with obesity. Dr. Goldman explains how CBT helps patients identify, challenge, and reframe these patterns instead of accepting them as truth. The Diet Failed You. You Did Not Fail the Diet. — A powerful reframe Dr. Goldman used with bariatric patients at Bellevue: the surgery failed the patient, not the other way around. This directly challenges the internalized shame that comes from years of failed diets and reframes it through the lens of obesity as a complex, chronic, progressive disease. Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset — Years of "nothing works" can create an entrenched fixed mindset. Dr. Goldman connects Carol Dweck's research to the lived experience of obesity patients and explores how flexible thinking and self-compassion begin to shift the pattern. Toxic Positivity: What It Is and Why It's Harmful — "Positive vibes only" invalidates real experience and suppresses important emotions. Dr. Goldman explains the spectrum from toxic positivity to toxic negativity, where healthy realistic optimism lives, and why body acceptance is more sustainable than body positivity for bariatric patients. Self-Care Is Not a Bubble Bath — Self-care is anything you do for yourself that is preventative and builds you up before life happens. Showing up to a support group, listening to a podcast, sleeping, and breathing exercises all count. It's a non-negotiable daily practice, not a reward. Imposter Syndrome as a Feature, Not a Bug — The most surprising reframe of the episode: imposter syndrome may actually be useful. Dr. Goldman explains eustress (positive, motivating stress) and why a measured level of imposter syndrome drives preparation, humility, and growth. April and Jason share deeply personal experiences of imposter syndrome in bariatric advocacy. Community, Vulnerability, and Asking for Help — The people who feel they have no right to take up space in a support group are often the ones who need it most. Asking for help is brave, not weak. Practice Your Tools Before You Need Them — Like a fire drill, tools must be practiced in calm moments so the response is automatic when life gets hard. 📖 When Life Happens by Dr.
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