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Do you suffer from pain or know someone who lives with chronic discomfort? What steps can we take to trick our brain into not fearing the toll of pain?
How fortunate we are to have experts like Dr Hayley Leake, pain research Fellow, physiotherapist and winner of Survivor Australia, Season 6, who can help us unravel what pain is and how we overcome fearing its impact.
In this episode you’ll learn:
What happens when we feel pain How our thoughts and feelings impact the pain we feel How Hayley’s pain research helped her become the last standing Australia, Season 6 Survivor How to trick your brain into not fearing pain
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