Should I Delete That?

How sex on screen really works - with the intimacy coordinator behind Normal People, Sex Education and I May Destroy You

Should I Delete That?

Show Notes

Let’s talk about sex…

Today, we’re speaking to Ita O’Brien - the intimacy coordinator behind the intimate scenes in Normal People, I May Destroy You, Bridgerton, It’s a Sin, Sex Education and more…

After training as an actor, dancer and movement coach - Ita created the ‘Intimacy On Set Guidelines’ - which protects actors and performers during scenes that involve nudity or sex.

Her work pre-dates the Me Too movement but was bought to public attention in the wake of the Weinstein scandal. Ita explained why her work is so vital, why having an intimacy coordinator benefits everyone on set, and how creating realistic sex has a positive impact far beyond the actors on set...

Ita’s book Intimacy guides us through how she helps actors create authentic sex scenes, and how we can use those techniques to rebuild a deeper and healthier connection with our bodies, create a safe space for exploration, and rethink how we navigate sex and intimacy in our own lives and in society as a whole. The book contains behind-the-scenes insights, practical exercises and guidance to help us communicate boundaries and navigate everyday relationships. You can get your copy here!

Find out more about Ita's work at https://www.intimacyonset.com/

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Should I Delete That is produced by Faye Lawrence Studio Manager: Elliott Mckay Video Editor: Celia Gomez Social Media Manager: Sarah English Music: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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