
226: Erectile Dysfunction After Prostate Cancer: Steve’s Story of Loss, Love and Getting Back in the Game
The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual HealthShow Notes
Episode Overview: Steve Fisher is 77 years old, lives in Nebraska, and has been through more than most men can imagine. In 2020, he and his wife were both diagnosed with cancer at the same time. Her lung cancer surgery was followed by a catastrophic complication, and Steve lost her in late 2020, while still carrying his own prostate cancer diagnosis. In the first half of 2021, Steve went ahead with treatment: low-dose brachytherapy (permanent seed implants) followed by 20 sessions of external beam radiation, plus a short course of Lupron (a prescription hormonal therapy). His PSA is now sitting at 0.04. Cancer-wise, things are excellent. But nobody told Steve what was coming next. No one talked to him about erectile dysfunction, penile rehabilitation, vacuum pumps, constriction rings, or the emotional weight of losing sexual function on top of losing a partner. He navigated that on his own, with little support from his healthcare team. Then in May 2026, Steve stumbled across Victoria Cullen's website A Touchy Subject on YouTube, joined The Hub, and things started to shift. He ordered daily Cialis and a Soma OT medical-grade vacuum pump — the right equipment, with the right information about how constriction rings work in combination with a pump. Within two months, Steve and Carol were having penetrative sex again for the first time in years. This episode is also about the emotional and psychological side of this journey — the anxiety men carry silently, the male ego dimension of losing erectile function, and the importance of community, peer support, and simply having someone to talk to who understands. This is a warm, funny, honest, and genuinely hopeful conversation about grief, finding love again, getting information too late, and what happens when a man finally gets the right tools and the right support. Golden Tip: How to use the pumps with a constriction ring successfully, including Steve’s tip about lubricant on the outside of the cylinder.
In This Episode, We Cover
Options when PDE5i (Viagra etc) don’t work
The difference between medical-grade vacuum pumps and sex toys
Why injections (Trimix) failed for Steve and what was missing from the picture
Constriction rings: the information that changed everything- Golden Tip even Melissa learnt something new!
Finding love again in later life and navigating intimacy with a new partner
The mental and emotional toll of erectile dysfunction, the side no one talks about enough
Victoria Cullen’s community The Hub, and why peer support matters
Steve’s new YouTube channel: Everyday Prostate Cancer Warrior
Key Message from Steve Steve’s closing message is about the emotional and mental burden men carry through this. Cancer treatment gets you through the door. But the anxiety, the silence, the feeling that you should just be grateful you’re alive that stays with men for years. Steve wants other men to know it is acceptable to talk about it, to seek support, and to keep going. He had almost given up entirely. Finding the right community, the right information, and the right equipment changed everything.
Resources & Links
The Hub – Victoria Cullen’s online community for men navigating prostate cancer recovery and intimacy: A Touchy Subject / The Hub
Steve’s YouTube channel – personal stories and practical experience from a prostate cancer survivor: Everyday Prostate Cancer Warrior on YouTube
Book a telehealth appointment with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic
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Steve Fisher YouTube link to his Everyday Prostate Cancer Warrior. https://youtu.be/APLm1W8uPBA?si=SfaA9A74GqMNcvUq
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