What the Architects of Taboo Can Teach Us About Consent, Intimacy, and Trust with The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames Video
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Season 6, Episode 763: What the Architects of Taboo Can Teach Us About Consent, Intimacy, and Trust with the Kink Consultant Amanda Dames. Listen to an interview with The Kink Consultant: On Shame, Desire, and Honest Communication. Guest Bio: AMANDA DAMES, aka The Kink Consultant, is a sexologist, Somatica® Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, podcast host, and former NYC Dominatrix specializing in kink, intimacy, and communication. Through coaching, education, media appearances, and her podcast The Kink Consultant, Amanda helps people explore desire without shame while making kink feel approachable, empowering, and rooted in consent, confidence, and connection. Known for her honest, playful, and accessible teaching style, Amanda has built an online audience of more than 300,000 followers across social media and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, Women's Health, POPSUGAR, and Court TV for her expertise in kink and modern relationships. Her work focuses on helping individuals and couples communicate openly about fantasies, power dynamics, and emotional intimacy so they can create relationships that feel more authentic, exciting, and fulfilling both inside and outside the bedroom.
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Discussion Topics: The Kink Consultant: On Shame, Desire, and Honest Communication Meeting Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant Sex Education Ignores Female Pleasure and that needs to change, everyone on the planet has been gaslit by culture, society, education, and religion Shame and Communication in Intimate Relationships Sexual Health as Mental Health, we can't ignore sexual health because it's a component of mental health Communication is the Foundation of Kink Origins and Evolution of Kinks and Fetishes, where do these come from? Sex Research Deserves Equal Funding and Attention for BOTH sexes and that has not been done well in the past Instagram Censorship and Women's Health Content,, the social media platforms are unfairly guiding discussions on sexual health, favoring and allowing men's topics, but not women's. They need to stop treating actual body parts as taboo words, especially women's body parts. We need to quit the old Puritanical influence! Breaking Judgment to Build Better Relationships Anatomy Matters! Clitoral Sensitivity and Hood Anatomy Explained, we need real teaching and discussions on real anatomy, not hidden blackballed teaching on women's anatomy Body Modification, the ramifications, and Personal Autonomy Risky Decisions and Living to Tell Tales Where to Find Amanda and Resources Past episode clips, book blurb, FirmTech information From the Podcast Host Ruan Willow: One of Ruan's fave brands of adult pleasure toys: Affiliate link Pearl Toys from Kiiroo: Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with affiliate code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Neighborhood Sex Secrets novel: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecrets Discreet cover and title for Neighborhood Secrets: Neighborhood Secrets Novel by Ruan Willow Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with affiliate code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow
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