Show Notes
Shame and guilt are often confused — but they lead us in very different directions. In this guest episode of Transformative Paths, Wanda is joined by Fr. Christopher Looby for a thoughtful conversation about accountability, repair, and the difficult but essential practice of self-forgiveness. Drawing from pastoral experience, lived insight, and compassionate reflection, this episode explores how to take responsibility for harm without collapsing into self-punishment. Together, we discuss the difference between shame and guilt, what real accountability looks like in everyday life, how to repair harm with integrity, and how self-forgiveness allows growth without minimizing the past. This episode is for anyone carrying old guilt, struggling to move forward, or seeking a steadier path toward healing — grounded in honesty, compassion, and responsibility. Transformation isn’t about perfection. It’s about practice — and choosing growth, one step at a time.
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