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Caasi O’Day on Being “Too Much,” Somatic Healing, and Treating the Clients Others Avoid Licensed clinical social worker Caasi O’Day, founder of Las Vegas practice Polarized Parts, shares her path from being a “lost cause” teen in a small Iowa town—angry, self-harming, using drugs, and distrustful of therapy—to becoming a clinician known for radical honesty, dark humor, and working with clients often judged or labeled “treatment resistant.” She explains why she centers nonjudgment, authenticity, and self-disclosure, and outlines DBT’s four modules (mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness) alongside internal family systems and somatic work. The conversation explores intimacy, attachment, rejection fears, her fast engagement and later divorce (requested June 2024), and her practice of taking a year off dating after breakups. O’Day discusses ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, her own first experience (panic attack, then joy after letting go of control), and the importance of integration and body awareness. She also covers therapist self-care, private practice boundaries, and future plans for more somatic workshops, teaching, and nature-based offerings, ending with what she’d tell her 16-year-old self: “You are not too much.” 00:00 Meet Caasi O'Day 01:09 Early Life Template 02:25 Acting Out and Therapy 05:31 Sent Away and Too Much 06:56 Becoming the Therapist 09:37 Working With Outcasts 12:13 DBT Skills Breakdown 14:56 Nonjudgmental Client Care 19:21 Intimacy and Self Worth 23:53 Marriage Divorce and Growth 28:47 Talking About Sex Safely 34:39 Curiosity Over Assumptions 34:57 Erotic Communication Skills 37:41 Puberty And Mixed Signals 41:10 Receiving Honest Feedback 43:05 Desire Changes Over Time 44:20 Somatic Clues In The Body 46:53 Beyond Talk Therapy 51:39 Ketamine And Integration 58:00 Therapist Burnout Boundaries 01:01:59 Rebuilding And Future Vision 01:05:26 Advice To The Sixteen Year Old Cassi https://polarizedparts.com/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587040433132 https://www.instagram.com/polarized_parts
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