The Hardcore Therapist 144.5- Overexplaining Is a Form of Emotional Begging: How It Keeps You Trapped in Anxiety
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Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m talking about overexplaining as a form of emotional begging and how it can keep us trapped in a cycle of anxiety. I break down why we overexplain, how it connects to people-pleasing, attachment wounds, reassurance-seeking, trauma responses, and fear of being misunderstood. I also share how overexplaining can become a way of trying to earn safety, approval, or connection from people who may not be willing to truly hear us. This episode explores the differe...
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