171 | Don't Burn Your Own House Down: How We Almost Destroyed Our Own with Jesse Maestas
Living Easy with LindseyShow Notes
IT'S RELEASE DAY!!! Don't Burn Your Own House Down is officially out in the world! For this special day, Jesse asked if he could sit down and interview me about the real story behind the book… and our marriage. We talk honestly about the habits and patterns that created distance between us. We discuss the stories of others' that are a big part of this book (and the title). This conversation is about the reality that marriage doesn't just happen and stay great on its own. It takes intention. It takes humility. It takes learning how to repair when you've hurt each other. And it takes choosing an eternal perspective, to keep Jesus as the foundation, and choosing one another even when your feelings are all over the place. I also share the core moment that made me feel like I had to write this book, the chapters that were the most personal for me, and what I believe is the one place couples can start if they want to begin reconnecting. This isn't about being the "perfect couple." It's about being two people who are ready to learn how to stop drifting and start building again.
About the Book Don't Burn Your Own House Down is about recognizing the small patterns that slowly erode connection in your marriage. I speak on modern issues in modern marriages, like social media, p*rnography, comparison, spiritual disconnection, emotional labor, marital financial struggles, and much more. I give practical tools, along with my own vulnerable stories, to help you to rebuild emotional safety, communication, and closeness in a practical, honest way. Don't Burn Your Own House Down is for new couples who want to prepare their hearts for a godly marriage. Couples who don't want to give up, but know something needs to change. Couples who have been married for 50 years but feel like their love has disappeared. Couples with newborns or a difficult family life who just need some reprieve and support. No matter what season you're in, this book is for YOU.
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