Should Christians Celebrate Halloween? | S4E59

How do you grow your capacity to feel emotions without having them define or control you? In this episode, we look at the second element of a R.A.R.E. Leader, the ability to "act like yourself." We discuss three categories of leader: predators, possums, and protectors. The mature version of you will always be a protector. How do you develop the skills to be the more mature version of yourself? How do you grow the habits of acting like yourself? Understanding your true identity, managing triggers, and developing healthy routines can transform your leadership and personal growth. The goal of this series is to equip you to live and lead with more emotional intelligence and resilience on your walk with God. The book Rare Leadership by Marcus Warner & Jim Wilder combines theology, brain science, and decades of counseling and consulting experience to equip you to cultivate maturity in yourself and others, develop strong group identity, keep relationships bigger than problems, and more! Over the course of this series, we'll be unpacking the four habits of a rare leader: Remain relational. Act like yourself. Return to joy. Endure hardship well. Check out the free discussion guide for this book in the description links.

One of the defining qualities of a mature leader is the ability to remain relational even in the face of problems or conflict. This does not mean ignoring problems but handling issues in a relational way and treating people like people, not problems. In this episode we're discussing relational strategies (C.A.K.E.), fear mapping and problem solving, and recognizing that sometimes we can't save every relationship, but how can we remain our relational selves and have the best chance to maintain relationships even when conflict arises? The goal of this series is to equip you to live and lead with more emotional intelligence and resilience on your walk with God. The book Rare Leadership by Marcus Warner & Jim Wilder combines theology, brain science, and decades of counseling and consulting experience to equip you to cultivate maturity in yourself and others, develop strong group identity, keep relationships bigger than problems, and more! Over the course of this series, we'll be unpacking the four habits of a rare leader: Remain relational. Act like yourself. Return to joy. Endure hardship well. Check out the free discussion guide for this book in the description links. 📕 Rare Leadership BOOK: https://deeperwalk.com/product/rare-leadership-book/ 🎁 DIY BOOK CLUB KIT: https://tinyurl.com/OTTDIY-RARE 💝 PAY IT FORWARD: https://deeperwalk.com/donate/ 🙏 PRAYER MINISTRY REFERRALS: https://deeperwalk.com/ministry-referrals/ 📸 Follow OTT on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onthetrail_podcast 💚 HEART-FOCUSED COMMUNITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/heart-focused-community-course/ ⚔️ IDENTITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/identity-course/ Go Deeper: 🎧 Building Bounce, Ch 7: S4E239- "Connecting With People" https://deeperwalk.com/podcast/39-connecting-with-people-building-bounce-ch-7-s4e39/ Thank you for joining us – father-daughter duo Marcus Warner and Stephanie Warner – on the trail to a deeper walk with God! Chapters - 00:00 Welcome! 1:04 R.A.R.E. Recap & Remain Relational 3:26 You Can't Save Every Relationship 10:46 Fear Mapping & Problem Solving 15:13 C.A.K.E. Relational Strategies 18:17 Envelope Conversations 22:46 Relational Training Wheels & Assessment 27:37 You Can Be Straightforward & Relational

How can we be intentional about noticing and imitating people with maturity skills we need to strengthen? How do we "practice the presence of God"? What's the difference between an Identity Group and an Accountability Group? This episode looks at Chapter Six "Where You Start: Imitation, Identity, Intimacy" and builds the framework we'll use for the rest of the series to put what we're learning into practice. We're talking about mirror neurons, intimacy with God, heart-focused communities, and more! The goal of this series is to equip you to live and lead with more emotional intelligence and resilience on your walk with God. The book Rare Leadership by Marcus Warner & Jim Wilder combines theology, brain science, and decades of counseling and consulting experience to equip you to cultivate maturity in yourself and others, develop strong group identity, keep relationships bigger than problems, and more! Over the course of this series, we'll be unpacking the four habits of a rare leader: Remain relational. Act like yourself. Return to joy. Endure hardship well. Check out the free discussion guide for this book in the description links. 📕 Rare Leadership BOOK: https://deeperwalk.com/product/rare-leadership-book/ 🎁 DIY BOOK CLUB KIT: https://tinyurl.com/OTTDIY-RARE 💝 PAY IT FORWARD: https://deeperwalk.com/donate/ 🙏 PRAYER MINISTRY REFERRALS: https://deeperwalk.com/ministry-referrals/ 📸 Follow OTT on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onthetrail_podcast 💚 HEART-FOCUSED COMMUNITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/heart-focused-community-course/ ⚔️ IDENTITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/identity-course/ Go Deeper: 🎧 Jumpstart Your Prayer Life: S4E28 - "The Two Notebook Approach to Prayer" https://deeperwalk.com/podcast/28-the-two-notebook-approach-to-prayer-jumpstart-your-prayer-life-part-5-s4e28/ 🎧 Building Bounce: S4E40 - "Connecting with God" https://deeperwalk.com/podcast/40-connecting-with-god-building-bounce-ch-8-s4e40/ Thank you for joining us – father-daughter duo Marcus Warner and Stephanie Warner – on the trail to a deeper walk with God! Chapters - 00:00 Hope Together Recap 00:47 Rare Leadership: Theory vs. Practice 4:29 Imitation of Maturity Skills 12:07 Intimacy with God 22:30 Identity Groups vs. Accountability Groups 27:54 Where Is Your Current Growth Edge?

When you know who you are, you get results. In leadership, many think almost exclusively in terms of getting results. Results do matter, and there's no getting around that in leadership. But chapter five of Rare Leadership argues that our top priority should be our culture and then from there we pursue results. Who are we as a group, as a company? How is it like us to act? People who focus only on results and not on culture often end up creating toxic environments motivated by fear. This week we're looking at the difference between management and leadership, how to build identity and belonging that shape culture, what maturity has to do with community building, and more. The goal of this series is to equip you to live and lead with more emotional intelligence and resilience on your walk with God. The book Rare Leadership by Marcus Warner & Jim Wilder combines theology, brain science, and decades of counseling and consulting experience to equip you to cultivate maturity in yourself and others, develop strong group identity, keep relationships bigger than problems, and more! Over the course of this series, we'll be unpacking the four habits of a rare leader: Remain relational. Act like yourself. Return to joy. Endure hardship well. Check out the free discussion guide for this book in the description links. 📕 Rare Leadership BOOK: https://deeperwalk.com/product/rare-leadership-book/ 🎁 DIY BOOK CLUB KIT: https://tinyurl.com/OTTDIY-RARE 💝 PAY IT FORWARD: https://deeperwalk.com/donate/ 🙏 PRAYER MINISTRY REFERRALS: https://deeperwalk.com/ministry-referrals/ 📸 Follow OTT on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onthetrail_podcast 💛 HOPE TOGETHER CONFERENCE: https://hopetogether.com/deeperwalk/ Go Deeper: 🫡 Rare Leadership BOOT CAMP: https://deeperwalk.com/churches/rare-leadership-boot-camp/ 💚 HEART-FOCUSED COMMUNITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/heart-focused-community-course/ ⚔️ IDENTITY COURSE: https://deeperwalk.com/sp/identity-course/ Thank you for joining us – father-daughter duo Marcus Warner and Stephanie Warner – on the trail to a deeper walk with God! Chapters - 00:00 Happy Birthday Ben! & Hope Together Conference 2:23 Chapter 5: Results vs. Culture 8:30 Management vs. Leadership 12:14 Building Identity 15:30 Building Belonging 18:27 How Has Culture Led to Better Results? 21:05 Community Builders & Maturity 25:57 Start Where You're At

Fear controls us when we avoid emotions we can't handle. What makes communities toxic, and how do we foster healthier, more resilient communities?