
#83 Here's Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging Without Even Realizing It| Michael Mahoney
The David Guttman PodcastShow Notes
You might think self-sabotage is a discipline problem. That if you just wanted it badly enough, you'd stop repeating the pattern. But the truth is the opposite: your brain is sabotaging you on purpose, because it's doing exactly the job it evolved to do. In this conversation, coach Michael Mahoney breaks down what he calls "the game of the mind", the constant hum of worry, fear, anxiety, and doubt that most people mistake for reality.
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Timestamps
00:00 - Intro of Show
01:26 - From amateur boxer to coach
04:39 - Deconditioning the fighter mindset
07:34 - Athlete to salesman: killing the ego
13:41 - Finding his real passion: serving people
16:15 - The mentor who rewired his language
20:44 - Worry, fear, and the survival mind
21:00 - The five levels of every belief
24:04 - Reframing, preframing, and deframing
27:10 - Why you self-sabotage
28:00 - The blind spot in successful men
30:18 - Carl Jung and dating your shadow
33:36 - Finding God through the work
39:05 - Victim mentality as a cry for attention
41:10 - Happy or right?
48:19 - How language brainwashes you
51:05 - Being honest with yourself
58:24 - Leading with questions, not orders
01:03:53 - What poker teaches about life
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