Show Notes
Why do we keep tripping ourselves up right when things are going well—and how do we stop? Chrissy chats with bestselling author Brianna Wiest to unpack The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery, reframing “self-sabotage” as a safety strategy and teaching simple, repeatable practices to build emotional resilience and move forward one small step at a time.
Five Key Takeaways Self-sabotage = self-protection: many “bad habits” are coping strategies designed to keep us safe and comfortable. Micro-shifts beat breakthroughs: tiny, consistent changes recondition your nervous system better than all-at-once overhauls. Practice the pause: inserting even a 1–2 second gap between feeling and action is the “golden window” to choose differently. Mind your upper limit: notice when feeling good triggers an unconscious pull back to the familiar—and expand your tolerance for good. Future-self navigation: use the “highest-potential/90-year-old self” exercise to make clear, values-aligned decisions when you don’t feel ready.
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