Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan

Olivia Attwood asks: is ‘don’t settle’ just a toxic ideal?

Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan

Show Notes

Olivia Attwood is our August digital cover star — and this week’s question-asker! Off the back of a big break-up, the presenter, podcast host, and Love Island alum is asking Millie and Clare whether ‘don’t settle’ is realistic or toxic relationship advice, and if the ‘perfect’ partner can ever even exist.

Read Olivia’s cover story on Cosmo here, and let us know what you think about the idea of settling in comments, reviews, or on our socials @CosmopolitanUK. And don’t forget to tell us what you want Millie and Clare to discuss next!

P.S. The girls chat about Relationship OCD in this episode — for more info, read our feature about it in our Aug/Sept print magazine, or online here.

Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson

Co-host: Amy May Ellis

Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson

Executive Producer: Will Foster

Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson

Producer: Ruth Holroyd

Video Editor: Megan Stapleton

Assistant Producer and Cosmopolitan Features Editor: Jennifer Savin

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