The New Man

How Being Guarded Kills Aliveness, Meaning, and Purpose — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

The New Man

Show Notes

Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status? Does living with an open heart make you weak? And how is staying guarded killing aliveness? I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of living almost destroyed me. For the last 20 years I’ve watched my wife Alyson navigate life very differently. She’s one of those rare few that can effortlessly disarm people and help them access their own hearts. Her strength in emotional situations is inspiring. It’s her superpower. So is this just something she was born with or is it a skill that she’s developed? I’ve always wanted to know but never asked. Until today. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/being-guarded

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