Show Notes
Q1. Anxious about letting my 12yr old daughter walk home from school alone.
Q2. Considerations for allowing 17 yr old daughter to go on a beach vacation without supervision?
Q3. Helping a hurting 13yr old girl who told a boy she likes him and then all her friends turned on her.
Q4. Small-for-his-age 8yr old might get hurt playing hockey. Should I encourage a different sport?
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