Project Parenthood

What to do if your child has an extreme need for control and autonomy (Reissue)

Project Parenthood

Show Notes

678.When a child goes to extreme lengths to avoid any demand or expectation—even those they have of themselves—parents can be left feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Every child will resist or defy parental demands and requests from time to time. But when a child goes to extreme lengths to avoid any demand or expectation—even those they have of themselves—parents can be left feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Dr. Nanika Coor offers suggestions for coping with life with a child who struggles with Pathological Demand Avoidance.

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