Show Notes
August 4th is Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day — a day set aside to say out loud what so many of you have been carrying in silence: that what happened to you was real, that it mattered, and that it deserves to be named. Today I'm sitting down with Andrea Rogers. Andrea is a Board Certified Coach and a Certified Partner Coach with APSATS — that's the Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists. She's also a Brainspotting practitioner, the founder of Fully Alive Coaching, and she works with women using something called the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. And Andrea isn't just doing this work from the outside — she's a betrayal trauma survivor herself, which is a big part of why this conversation matters. If you've ever felt like you were "too much" for reacting the way you did, or wondered if you were losing your mind — this conversation is for you. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode
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Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), complete this interest list for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.
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Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal
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