How to Handle Criticism Without Getting Defensive | Three Practical Ways to Turn Feedback Into Growth
Crucial Skills | Management & AccountabilityShow Notes
Have you ever heard the phrase "constructive criticism" and immediately felt your guard go up? You're not alone. For many people, feedback feels personal, uncomfortable, or even discouraging, especially when it's delivered imperfectly. But what if the key to growth isn't changing how feedback is given, but changing how we receive it?
Emily Gregory explores why so many people struggle with criticism and shares practical strategies for approaching feedback with a more productive mindset. Rather than focusing on the person delivering the message, Emily encourages listeners to examine their own reactions and discover ways to stay open to learning, even when feedback feels difficult to hear.
Through relatable examples and actionable advice, Emily outlines several simple techniques that can help transform feedback from something we dread into something we can use. Whether you're receiving feedback from a manager, colleague, mentor, or friend, this episode offers dialogue skills for improving communication, building resilience, and finding value in perspectives that can help you grow.
Chapters [Start] Why We Resist Criticism: Emily explores why feedback often feels uncomfortable and why many people instinctively push it away. 02:43 A Different Perspective on Feedback: How changing your mindset can influence the way feedback conversations unfold. 03:41 Moving Beyond Vague Criticism: A practical approach to getting more value from feedback conversations. 04:43 Choosing What to Keep: Why not every piece of feedback needs to be treated the same way. 05:39 Staying Open to Growth: How thoughtful responses to feedback can strengthen communication and personal development.
Links and Resources Crucial Learning Constructive Criticism: How to Hear It When You’d Rather Not Feedsmacked Presentation from 2019 REACH Conference Crucial Conversations for Accountability
Learn more about Emily Gregory here.
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