World Kindness Day Special: Be Kinder to Your Extra Sensitive Nervous System
Soles to Soul Care for Trauma and AuDHD with Eve Menezes CunninghamShow Notes
Be Kinder to Your Extra Sensitive Nervous System: Episode 84 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast Struggling to show yourself the same kindness you’d give others? If you have ADHD, autism, or trauma, your nervous system needs extra care—not extra pressure. This episode explores why self-compassion is essential for neurodivergent and trauma survivors—and how to practice it daily. Topics covered: Recognizing when you’re pushing yourself too hard (like working until 3am) Understanding your extra sensitive nervous system The 20,000 negative messages statistic and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Reparenting yourself with tenderness The Feel, Love, Heal framework for self-acceptance Befriending your body and mind as they are right now Connecting with neurodivergent community
Resources mentioned: Workshop at The Yoga Root (Feb 15) - theyogaroot.org Sole to Soul Circle membership (from €8/month) EFT tap-along for RSD (bonus content) Free resources at selfcarecoaching.net Book: 365 Ways to Feel Better
You deserve tenderness. You deserved more than you had. Let yourself grieve while you heal. 📧 [email protected] 🌐 selfcarecoaching.net #ADHD #Autism #AuDHD #SelfCompassion #TraumaHealing #Neurodivergent #RSD #SelfCare #WorldKindnessDay CHAPTERS (0:00–0:33) Why it’s still so hard to be kind to ourselves (0:38–1:26) Discovering autism and learning to slow down (1:26–3:00) Overworking, late nights, and holding yourself accountable for rest (3:08–4:16) Understanding ADHD, emotional pain, and rejection sensitivity (4:16–5:41) Reparenting yourself and honouring what you’ve survived (5:48–7:04) Working gently with childhood memories and self-compassion (7:10–8:14) Befriending your changing body and mind (8:21–9:17) Finding connection and support within neurodivergent communities (9:40–10:27) Accepting yourself and allowing healing (10:27–11:00) Expressing your needs without apology (11:07–12:09) You deserve tenderness and kindness (12:09–13:31) Grieving what you didn’t have and helping build a kinder world LINKS Love Yourself. Warts and All: I Swear inspired Episode 82 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast https://youtu.be/emoPrbHbc2M?si=HIP2MEp0QaD-E1Mt Shadow Work with Black Cats and Sharks: Episode 71 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast https://youtu.be/OudSMFHNDEo Be More Cat: Episode 70 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast https://youtu.be/ZJQTjy372GY Love your inner Smelly Cat this Bealtaine and beyond Episode 56 of The Feel Better Every Day Podcast https://youtu.be/daQopL3K7BY Cattitude: Purr! Hiss! Freeze! Episode 48 of The Feel Better Every Day Podcast https://youtu.be/atAcj0HtD6U FULL TRANSCRIPT Are you still struggling to be even a fraction as kind to yourself as you would be to anyone else, especially if you knew their trauma history or how much they struggle with ADHD AuDHD autism symptoms? This episode is to, as all of the episodes, helping people with trauma, ADHD AuDHD take better care of yourself, create a life you don’t need to retreat from and help build a world in which everyone feels safe, welcome and loved. So this is episode 84 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast and I’m still in the early stages of processing the fact that I have autism as well as ADHD and again it’s making so much more sense of my nearly 50 years on the planet and having to be extra gentle with myself. I was kind of crying every day for a couple of weeks there and other stuff going on but recognising it even though all my work is about amping up the self-care and protecting the trauma survivor and neurodivergent extra sensitive nervous system, realising I was still trying to do way too much and really recognising that’s not friendly, that’s not kind. Even a little thing, like I worked weekends for many, many years. I’ve been self-employed for 21 years but for more than half of that I was constantly doing additional trainings and getting different certifications and so many additional things. When I started giving myself weekends off
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