Show Notes
Content creators Lori-Jade and Max Siegel join Ben for an honest, deeply human conversation about late diagnosis, identity and what it means to build a life together as a neurodivergent couple.
Both diagnosed with AuDHD in adulthood, they reflect on being missed for decades - from masking and misdiagnosis to the quiet grief of realising how different things could have been.
They explore how gender, queerness and hormones shape their neurodivergent experience, and what happens when both partners are navigating sensory needs, communication and regulation in real time.
If you’re navigating late diagnosis, identity or relationships as a neurodivergent adult, this episode is for you.
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Host: Ben Branson Production Manager: Phoebe De Leiburné Video Editor: James Scriven Social Media Manager: Charlie Young Music: Jackson Greenberg Head of Marketing: Kristen Fuller
00:00 Introduction 01:52 Late Autism Diagnosis & Where It All Begins 05:57 Early ND Experiences & Feeling Different 11:38 Self-Awareness & ADHD Masking 16:21 Life Before Diagnosis 23:59 Recognition & Getting Assessed For ADHD 27:45 Understanding Yourself After Autism Diagnosis 37:56 ND Communication Differences Explained 43:13 Discomfort, Boundaries & Misunderstandings 48:22 Trust, Relationships & Being Honest 52:09 Daily Life, Challenges & Coping 56:22 Gratitude & Positive Reflections 1:00:55 Identity, Background & Personal History 1:09:10 Shared ND Experiences & Validation 1:18:43 Overstimulation & Sensory Struggles 1:23:38 Secondary Impacts Of ND 1:28:59 Lori & Max's Green Dot of Light
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