349 — 7 Uncomfortable Truths That Are Keeping You Stuck (And What to Do About Each One) With Psychotherapist Kier Gaines
Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy MorinShow Notes
Most people wait for the right moment, the right feeling, the right amount of information before they change. But my guest today says it all starts when you confront the seven uncomfortable truths that are holding you back.
My guest is Kier Gaines, a licensed professional counselor who reaches more than 40 million people on social media every month. His new book is It All Starts When You Do.
Some of the things we discuss are:
Why waiting for the right moment costs you the life you want
The difference between accountability and self-blame
Why self-awareness alone almost never leads to change (and what actually does)
The seven uncomfortable truths and why the first step isn't fixing them, it's getting curious about them
Why affirmations can make you feel worse
Why overwhelm is often a failure of systems, not a failure of your capabilities
The five stages of behavioral change and why knowing which one you're in changes what you should actually do next
Why "I only date healed people" misses how humans actually work
Why distress tolerance might be the single most important skill for growing mentally stronger
The Therapist's Take: My top three strategies for starting when you're not ready
Related Episodes
86 — The 6 Stages of Change: How to Transform Your Life
332 — Should You Sit With Your Feelings or Change How You Feel? The One Question That Decides It
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