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Kate Zame (@katezameslt) on Finding Herself, Five (27) Chickens, Being an AFAB Non-Birthing Parent, the Many Ways to Create a Family, HG, Parental Preferences, and the Magic of Christmas

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Show Notes

This episode feels like a really special one. It's one that I have been fostering for a long time, mainly because I wanted to make sure that Kate and her wife Kelly felt confident in my motivations and ensuring that they knew I was only approaching this with the most care and reverence. Kate Zame is a badass SLT, and that's how you might have come across her work (and, valid, cos her work is phenom). But, another reason why Kate is so cool is because she has a really unique experience of her journey to parenthood. I don't want to give too much away in the show notes, but this is an episode that everyone needs to listen to. This isn't just for the queer community, this isn't just for allies, it's for everyone. I also just want to brag for a second here, cos Kate is also my friend, and she's exactly the kind of incredible friend you'd expect. I am so excited to share her with the world, and for all of you to fall in love with her too. Content forecast: There is mention of difficult births towards the end of question one. There were a bunch of resources mentioned in this episode, so here they are! (Not linked, sorry, but written down!): EAP services to access counselling through your employer HER (the app for queer women) Love Makes a Family, a new website for those seeking donor materials or surrogates Pride Angels, same as above with focus on finding LGBTQIA+ families those arrangements Proud Conception - NZ podcast about queer families and their ways of creating a family Hapu Helpers, in home conception kits Follow me on socials, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected] ALSO DON'T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE, SO MANY OF YOU AREN'T SUBSCRIBING BUT ARE LISTENING EVERY WEEK!! LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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