Unshaming

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap w/ Kati Morton

Unshaming

Show Notes

Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Do you feel either anxious or suffocated in your relationship? Then this episode is for you. I sat down with licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton to discuss attachment styles. She explains why we are constantly chasing emotionally unavailable partners, how we can finally break that cycle, the biggest dating green & red flags in dating and more.

We cover: Why less than 10% of the population grows up with a secure attachment style How your romantic attachment style is completely formed within the first five years of your life The "anxious-avoidant trap" and why toxic relationships feel like high highs and low lows Why feeling intense "butterflies" on a first date is actually a massive red flag The deep connection between childhood emotional neglect, shame, and the fear of expressing your needs The exact steps to heal your attachment style

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Executive Producer Jordan Gonsalves

Producers Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor Deanna Chapman

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