The Self Love Podcast

Attachment styles, attachment trauma and love

The Self Love Podcast

Show Notes

In this podcast I will talk about attachment styles, attachment trauma and how they relate to our sense of self and loving others (and ourselves).

In this podcast, I mentioned a book called 'Attached', you can check it out here and as always, if you feel you need further 1:1 support, or feel that anything mentioned in this episode needs a conversation, you can drop me an ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠email here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and we can chat a little more about how I can help you.

If you want to receive my weekly 'self love notes' emails, ⁠⁠you can subscribe here⁠⁠ and you can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠access more content on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and I am super excited to announce that my 'self loved unlocked' subscription is coming in September!

You can also find out more about me at ⁠⁠⁠www.elainedenton.com⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for being her and don't forget to like, follow, subscribe and review!

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