Show Notes
This Thursday on The Awkward Bits, Vic has a slightly awkward realisation. She spent years desperately trying to become a moderate drinker, despite the small problem that she never actually wanted to drink moderately.
She didn’t want one sophisticated glass of wine with dinner. She wanted to numb out, switch off and, quite frankly, get a bit off her tits. So why did having “just one” become such an obsession?
Vic looks back at how moderation became a way of proving she was changing, particularly after having kids. If she could become the sort of woman who sipped one glass of wine, drank water in between and went home at a sensible hour, then surely everything was fine.
Except Moderate Vic didn’t exist. She was a fictional woman in a kaftan arranging flowers and leaving half bottles of wine in the fridge. There’s also a very drunk man at a party, a gorgeous Brazilian backpacker, Vic’s mum receiving the most useless Christmas present imaginable and some brilliant thoughts from the Sober Awkward community.
This isn’t an episode about moderation being bad. It’s about being honest about what you’re actually trying to preserve. If the thing you loved about drinking was getting pissed, spending years mourning the mythical single glass of wine is a bit bonkers.
News Flash!! - The prize was never learning how to have one. It's discovering you didn’t need the bloody thing at all.
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