IFS Conference Reflections (and Celebration of 100th episode) with Tammy Sollenberger
Intuitive Self: IFS + Intuition + Spirituality with Natalie DeeringShow Notes
Fresh from the 2025 IFS Conference and in celebration of the podcast's 100th episode, I sit down with my friend and fellow IFS enthusiast, Tammy Sollenberger, for a lively and heartfelt debrief. In true synchronicity, we somehow kept signing up for the same seminars—without ever comparing notes beforehand. We talk about our parts, our paths, and maybe a touch of destiny. Tammy opens up about what it’s like to be an “IFS celebrity” (yes, we said it!) and the part of her that found it difficult to fully surrender as a participant in sessions while being so publicly known in the community. I share about my socially anxious parts and how they showed up throughout the conference, and together we explore how our systems reacted to the intensity, the beauty, and the vulnerability of being surrounded by hundreds of other parts and protectors in one big IFS field. I also share some clairvoyant messages that came through for both of us — intuitive nudges about healing, alignment, and the unexpected ways our friendship continues to unfold inside and outside the IFS community. This episode is a blend of reflection, laughter, emotional honesty, and gentle self-discovery — just what you’d expect from two friends who speak IFS fluently and love exploring the edges between psychology and soul.
What We Talk About
How we kept accidentally attending all the same IFS conference seminars
Tammy’s experience of being an “IFS celebrity” and the protector that kept her from full vulnerability as a participant
My socially anxious parts and how they showed up in crowded conference spaces
The parts of us that got activated during the conference — and how we worked with them
Our individual experiences as presenters
Tammy’s real-time vulnerability: sharing about her romantic breakup in her presentation and how her system responded
Clairvoyant messages and intuitive insights that came through for both of us
Takeaways, integration, and how the IFS model continues to deepen our friendships and inner awareness
About Tammy Sollenberger Tammy Sollenberger is an author, podcaster, and psychotherapist. She’s a Certified IFS Therapist and Consultant who loves helping people new to IFS discover their Authentic Self. Tammy co-authored a chapter on the Enneagram and IFS with Joan Ryan in the book Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends. She’s also the author of The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, and the host and producer of the popular weekly podcast, “The One Inside.”
Tammy has a part who always wishes she were reading on a sunny beach ☀️Learn more about her work at tammysollenberger.com
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