
Show Notes
Everything we think we know about dating, sex, love, and marriage may only be half true. In this episode, Dr. Justin Garcia, director of the Kinsey Institute and author of The Intimate Animal, joins Ravi to unpack the hidden forces shaping modern relationships — from dating apps and Gen Z’s “sex recession” to infidelity, pornography, monogamy, and why so many Americans are single. Drawing on decades of research, they explore the gap between what people say they want and how relationships actually work. It’s a fascinating, surprising conversation about intimacy, trust, desire, and what it really means to find connection today.
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