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#57 How To Start Swinging, How It Improves Your Relationship & Red Flags You Must Know With Dan & Lacy From The Swing Nation

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Show Notes

Have you ever been curious about what the swinger lifestyle might be like? Today we sit down with Dan and Lacy from The Swing Nation Podcast to answer all your swinger-related questions. Tune in as we discuss everything, from figuring out whether the swinger lifestyle is right for you to the impact it could have on your relationship. Discover what drew Dan and Lacy to the lifestyle, their prior experiences with monogamy, and what they have learned from navigating this new world together. We discuss some of the best tips for exploring the swinger lifestyle, especially if you're a beginner, before examining how to deal with jealousy, and why honest communication is essential! You'll also learn how to recognize signs that swinging might be right for you, along with red flags you need to know about. Tune in for a deep dive into the swinging community from experts Dan and Lacy!

Key Points From This Episode:

Introducing Dan and Lacy from the Swing Nation Podcast. How Dan and Lacy found themselves involved in the swinger lifestyle together. Their experience with monogamous relationships and why they prefer the swinger lifestyle. Issues they encountered when they first started dating as swingers. Tips and advice on embarking on a journey of non-monogamy together. The benefits of taking it slow when you first start exploring the swinger lifestyle. How to recognize green flags that swinging might be right for you. Why insecurity and jealousy are normal and why good communication is essential. How swinging has benefited their relationship and communication. A breakdown of Dan and Lacy's boundaries and how they set them. The value of having a list of rules when you're starting out. Important red flags you should be aware of. Understanding compersion; the happiness you feel when your partner is intimate with others. How non-monogamy could change throughout your life and relationship. What led to them becoming prominent swinger influencers and educators. The type of events that Dan and Lacy host and how to join their Discord community.

Quotes:

"I knew that I can be monogamous if I really wanted to. It's not natural for me. I enjoy the non-monogamous aspect much more. It was nice to find a community that we could do it safely and together in." — Lacy [0:06:33] "If you want to take this journey into non-monogamy, it should be something that you're doing together to explore each other's fantasies, to improve your relationship, to improve your sex life." — Dan [0:10:07]

"The more you engulf yourself and experience things, I think the more you open up to new experiences." — Dan [0:22:26]

"The average person on OnlyFans makes $150 a month. It takes a lot of work. We have a team of people now that run mine. We have four OnlyFan pages. It's a labor of love. It's taken a lot of work. You have to be comfortable with your body and you have to set clear boundaries." — Lacy [0:36:36]

Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:

The Swing Nation — https://theswingnation.info/ Join the Swinger Society Discord Server! — https://discord.com/invite/swingersociety The Swing Nation Podcast on Swinger Red Flags — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/lifestyle-education-swinger-red-flags/id1582945782?i=1000547768021&l=en-GB The Swing Nation Podcast on Should I start a content subscription — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/from-swinging-to-subscriptions-should-you-start-an/id1582945782?i=1000645432035&l=en-GB Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

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