105. Is My Teenage Son Ruining His Future? Why You Panic Over His Behavior (And How to Stop)
Raising Boys Building Men ®/: Reconnect with Your Teenage SonShow Notes
Seven missing assignments in math. A phone he won’t put down. “Mom, you mom too much.” And in about two seconds, your mind is racing: “He’s going to ruin his future. I’ve lost him. I’ve failed as a mom.” If you feel scared, panicked, or guilty about your teenage son more days than not, you are in good company. You’re not a bad mom. You’re a scared mom who loves her son. In this episode, Heidi Allsop, Master Certified Life and Parenting Coach and mom of five sons, shows you where that fear really comes from (hint: it’s not his behavior). You’ll learn why “just stop yelling” never sticks, how to pull the behavior from the boy, and a simple 3-step practice for this week when the worry shows up. This is the first step of The Connected Mom Method: Manage Yourself. Because restoring your relationship is the fastest way to improve his behavior, and it starts with how you think about him. One mom wrote in after listening: “After just one podcast, that feeling was gone, that hopeless feeling. I finally had hope that I can have a relationship with my son.” In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your fear isn’t coming from his missing work, his phone, or his attitude (and what is) Three moments every boy mom knows, and the scary story we tell ourselves about each one How to pull the behavior from the boy, so you can love him and still correct him The two ways fear shows up: holding on too tight, or letting go too soon New thoughts to try that feel calmer and are still true “Why do I have to be the one to change?” Heidi’s honest answer The one question to ask yourself when the worry boils up
Your next step:This episode can take you a long way. But from inside the bottle, you can’t read the label. If you want help using this with your own son, book a free 30-minute Reconnection Strategy Call with me. We’ll find out what’s really in the way and get you your next step. I save 5 spots a week for moms who are serious about restoring their relationship with their son. Make sure you are one of them.👉 Book your call HERE
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Related episodes:
Ep. 5: Parenting Teen Boys: The Game-Changing Mindset Shift Every Mom Needs (separating facts from stories) Ep. 102: Is Your Teenage Son Lazy or Unmotivated? 3 Ways to Help Him Get Moving Ep. 26: The Weight of Worry: How to Stop Letting It Control Your Parenting
Bad moms don’t listen to podcasts about how to help their relationship with their son. You’re already doing better than you think, my friend. Keep going.
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