E263: Am I Too Much? Accepting & Loving Who You Are, Plus Your Retreat Invitation
Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHDShow Notes
Ever feel like you're "just too much"—too scattered, too loud, too mistake-prone, too ditzy, just…too all over the place? Maybe you dropped your phone in the ocean and screamed "noooo" until you cried? (Raising my hand slowly…) If so, you're in the right place. This last couple of weeks has been tough – a sinus infection, perimenopause brain fog, sunburned kids, lost phones, scraped bumpers, too-much-talking children, and waves of "am I too much for everyone?" If you're a mama with ADHD barely keeping your head above the laundry—err, water—this one's for you. Here's what we're discussing today: Why "careless mistake" is a phrase I wish would disappear (like my phone in the waves) The inside scoop on what "I'm too much" really means—and how it's all relative (spoiler: it's not you, it's the situation and who you're with) My tried-and-true tricks for loving yourself through chaos, mistakes, and feeling like a walking, talking, sticky note of forgetfulness How to communicate with your family when your ADHD turns up to level eleven—and what a little vulnerability can do for your relationships What it looks like when you stop trying to shove yourself into everyone else's "normal" and start being unapologetically YOU (even if "you" occasionally forgets the sunscreen) A sneak peek at the amazing ADHD Mama Retreat—your chance for a whole weekend of self-care, nature, and connecting with mamas who actually get it (and won't judge you for that time you forgot your own age) This isn't the land of Pinterest-perfect life. It's the real, messy, laugh-so-you-don't-cry journey of being a mom with ADHD who is embracing their quirks—and finally letting go of the "I should just try harder" myth. I'm hoping you feel seen, heard, and maybe even ready to forgive yourself for that thing you messed up last week (you know the one). Ready to hug your "too much" self and join a community of mamas who do the same? Hit play. And join us in October for the 4th annual ADHD Moms Retreat. Stick around until the end of the episode, when I'll tell you all about this amaaaaaaaaaazing weekend that you just have to come to! Early bird tickets are available until June 1st! Why get your ticket this month? 1) Secure the shrinking payment plan - no added interest. 2) Choose the kind of tiny home you want while both are still available. 3) Grab an additional group coaching session during the retreat weekend. 4) Look forward to this trip All Summer Long! I'm toying with some other things, too, but I'll leave a few surprises as well. Just in case you need more time, no worries. Early bird tickets are available until June 1st, and then Regular Tickets are available until the event sells out. Get your ticket, write me on your calendar, then come hang out with me and this sweet group of mamas in October. Reserve your spot on this relaxing weekend at https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-263-am-i-too-much-adhd-mom-retreat.
Wish you felt better about all the stuff you've messed up recently? Need a weekend away to get your head on straight? You are officially invited to the 4th annual ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat, October 10-12, 2025, just outside of Houston, Texas! "Honestly, this was one the best weekends I've had since becoming a mom. I've never felt so seen and understood. I would hop on a plane and go again. No hesitation! I'll follow y'all anywhere, moms." –ADHD Mama J.Q. I'll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy. I take care of you while you learn how to take even better care of yourself, in a way that's sustainable for real momlife. Because you can take care of your family when you're in a healthy place. Early bird tickets & bonuses are available until June 1st. Get your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat
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What if I don't feel like myself? What if it makes things worse? What if I make the wrong choice for my kid? If you've been afraid to try ADHD medication, I get it. The unknown is scary, and the horror stories don't help. The next bold, unfiltered opinion of mine is this: Take the ADHD medicine. Talk to your doctor, ask your questions, and give yourself permission to explore a tool that could help. In this episode, I share my own experience finding the generic medication that works best for me, why one disappointing experience doesn't mean every option will be a poor fit, and why I'd rather explore support before life becomes a dumpster fire. Medicine isn't a magic fairy wand that takes your ADHD away. It is one great tool available to you. Finding a good fit can be frustrating. But fear doesn't have to make the decision for you. Need help explaining your experiences to your doctor? My free ADHD symptoms checklist can help you put real-life examples into words. You can also find my book and preorder information at patriciasung.com/book. Come listen, mama. You deserve support and room to ask questions while you figure out what works for you and your family. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-288-take-adhd-medicine Links mentioned in this episode: Medicine series: Episode 142: Why I Choose to take ADHD Medication and My Journey for the Best ADHD Treatment Plan Episode 143: Should You Take ADHD Medication? How to Make the Difficult Decision to Try ADHD Medicine for Your Child or Yourself with Psychotherapist Christina Crowe Episode 144: Overcoming the Shame, Fear, and Embarrassment of ADHD Medication For Your Best Treatment Plan - Because Parenting with ADHD is a Different Ball Game! with Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parcells Episode 145: Stimulants and Non-Stimulants, Common Side Effects, and Squashing Rumors: An Introduction to ADHD Medication with Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parcells Episode 146: 10 ADHD Medication Myths Busted: Honestly Discussing the Truth about Stimulant ADHD Medicines Episode 147: What I Wish I Knew Before Taking ADHD Medication: Your Questions Answered!
"Doesn't everyone have a little ADHD?" Ugh.
There are no trophies for making your life the most difficult. So why are we making things so hard for ourselves? My unpopular opinion today: take the easy way out. As a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist, I'm practicing sharing my opinions more boldly. And today's opinion is this one: you're already doing 700 things. Please make some of them easier. In this short episode, I'm sharing why my purse stays by the door and why my kids buy school lunch. We'll also talk about how I let my older kids take responsibility when they want to pack their own lunch, instead of adding another thing to my morning. When something feels difficult, ask yourself: "What's the easiest way I could do this?" It's not lazy. It's efficient. It's working with your brain. I'm also sharing an update on my book, Motherhood and ADHD, coming out in February. If we reach 500 preordered copies by October 13, I'll draw one winner on October 14 for a spot at my Houston retreat the following weekend. Lodging, food, and activities are included; all you have to do is get here. Submit your receipt at patriciasung.com/book, with one entry per copy pre-ordered. Come listen, mama. You're allowed to choose an easier way. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-286-take-the-easy-way-out
Should you tell your kid they have ADHD? My unpopular opinion: YES. This is a hill I will die upon. We want to protect our kids. But when they're struggling and don't understand why, they start to believe they're the problem. They already know something feels different. Giving them a name for it helps them understand what's going on instead of blaming themselves. In this episode, I'm practicing speaking boldly as a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist. I'm sharing why I feel so strongly about telling kids about their diagnosis. We'll talk about using words that fit your child's age and maturity, explaining what helps their brain, and reminding them that there are lots of us out here who learn and do things differently. I also read a short passage from my upcoming book, Motherhood and ADHD. We don't need to pretend that feeling different is easy or cover it with toxic positivity. We can help our kids understand who they are and find support that fits. Plus, I'm sharing my book preorder details, including a retreat giveaway if we reach 500 preorders by October 13, and a reminder that October 1st is the last day to register for the October 16–18 Successful As a Mother weekend retreat. Come listen, mama. You don't need perfect words to help your child feel understood. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-285-should-i-tell-my-child-they-have-adhd Links mentioned in this episode: Laura Petix https://theotbutterfly.com/ Her book, The Sensory Code, comes out next week! Super stressed and need a break? Come along on our 5th annual ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat, October 16-18, 2026 in the Texas countryside, located at the Happy Goat Retreat! "Honestly, this was one the best weekends I've had since becoming a mom. I've never felt so seen and understood. I would hop on a plane and go again. No hesitation! I'll follow y'all anywhere, moms." –ADHD Mama J.Q. I'll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy. I take care of you while you learn how to take even better care of yourself, in a way that's sustainable for real momlife. Because you can take care of your family well when you're in a healthy place. It's time to get your ticket: www.patriciasung.com/retreat
You can do it all...but not at the same time. Every mom hits a busy season where you have no idea how everything is going to get done. Overwhelm is knocking at the door and you aren't sure where to start. I'm in that busy season with my upcoming book, and I'm sure you've been there (or are there now), too. Today I'm sharing an update on what's been happening in the last few weeks, and 6 things I'm doing to keep myself sane while I do it all. Plus I'm asking for help on who you think I should share the book with, so we can get the word out to as many moms as possible. Pick what helps and leave the rest. Big hugs! You can do this! Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-284-how-to-juggle-it-all-mom-adhd Links mentioned in this episode: How to Juggle Priorities: Decide Which Balls Are Glass and Which Are Plastic Article Episode 265: How Do You Keep Up with Everything as a Mom with ADHD? It's time to take care of you, mama. A whole weekend for you to relax and get away from all your weighty responsibilities, to understand your ADHD mind in community with moms who get it. Picture it: You, me, and 13 other ADHD mamas hanging out all weekend with plenty of acres and your very own adorable tiny home for you to enjoy the peace and quiet, too. Time to relax! Get your ticket now for the 5th annual ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat on October 16-18, 2026, and I'll take care of everything once you arrive! https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat