
Why Do Kids Get Aggressive? | How to React In A Gentle and Loving Way
The Irish Mummy Podcast | Work Life BalanceShow Notes
In a moment when your children are having an aggressive reaction, a great thing to do is say to yourself “If I were to respond like that, how would I like someone to treat me?” Adam found himself trying to console one of our kids when they were unhappy one night, and instead of getting angry himself and reacting with annoyance, he decided to try telling a story about overcoming anger with gratitude, which totally got everyone calm a lot quicker and they were all able to go to bed within 10 minutes.
Telling them a story about anger and gratitude 1:00 Children respond in a way that gets them the desired outcome 3:45 Helping kids react in the right way 11:25
“This is the hard thing as a parent. I react with anger when I’m starting to think about how their emotions are stopping me from doing something I then need to go and do. I’m not thinking about them, I’m thinking about ‘Well now I’m thinking about the next 15, 30, 40 minutes to unwind this, and I already got blah blah blah.’” 2:51
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