#291: You’re not distracted. (You’re misdirected.)
The Q Coach Pod | Mindset Coaching for Handlers with Julie BaconShow Notes
Most handlers treat focus like a personality trait — either you have it or you don’t. But focus is a skill, and like every other skill it can be trained. This episode is about how your brain’s attention filter actually works, the difference between noticing something and giving it your attention, why your dog reads your focus more than your energy, and how to start training attention deliberately before you need it under pressure.
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