Real Love Ready: The Series

Dr. Stan Tatkin - Why We Fight

Real Love Ready: The Series

Show Notes

What actually makes a relationship work? In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin and Dr. Stan Tatkin, couples therapist, researcher, and co-founder of the PACT Institute talk about just that! Drawing from decades of work with couples and insights from his book In Each Other’s Care, Dr. Stan helps us understand how our nervous system, attachment patterns, and instinctive human threat responses shape the way we relate. He brings clarity to why relationship conflict feels so hard—and how awareness can create room for more clarity and connection. Dr. Stan explains what supports a secure-functioning relationship: offering relief before trying to solve the issue, repairing early so resentment doesn’t build, and creating shared relationship agreements that protect emotional safety and trust. Rather than focus on what makes for a healthy partnership, Dr. Stan emphasizes what we can do to form secure bonds with those we love. This conversation offers thoughtful relationship insights and encourages us to consider how small, deliberate choices can strengthen the relationships we cherish. We want to hear from you! Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestion Links: http://thepactinstitute.com/ FOLLOW DR. STAN TATKIN: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK FOLLOW RLR: ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ | ⁠FACEBOOK⁠ | ⁠TIKTOK⁠

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