Female-led Relationship Coaching
The Weekly Hot Spot / The Psychology of Alternative Relationships and Power DynamicsShow Notes
Today we discuss some of the most common questions about female-led relationships. What is FLR? How do you help your partner to embrace being dominant? Where do you find women that might want to be in charge? As Femdoms, both hosts embrace FLR personally and give solid suggestions for submissive men that want to move from fantasy to daily reality.
Topics include: Defining FLR - what it is, what it isn’t and why the myth might be attractive but unattainable. Four levels of control and what that means in a relationship. How to decide if you should bring up FLR to your vanilla partner. What to say to begin the conversation about wanting her to be in charge. How to figure out what sort of submissive you are - sexual sub, service sub, something else?
You’ll hear personal stories from the private lives of Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika as well as examples from people they coach on phone or text sessions.
Remember, if you’re interested in private sessions - FLR coaching or other kinky sessions - both ladies are available for one-on-one conversations where our advice is tailored specifically to you and your needs.
Get in touch: [email protected] Ms Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress
[email protected] Ms Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
DISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika
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